Coaching for thoughtful, caring people who look fine on the outside but are struggling.

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One‑to‑one coaching for those who look capable on the outside but feel worn down, anxious, stuck, lost, disconnected, or overwhelmed inside.

 
Joanne Ostler certified coach

I’m a trauma-informed PCC coach with over twenty years of experience supporting people through complexity, uncertainty, and change.

You may look capable on the outside, but know that you are not entirely okay inside. You may feel tired, stuck, losing confidence, or unsure how to move forward. Many people in this situation have already tried books, journaling, mindfulness, or expert help, yet still feel heavy, uncertain, or lonely.

If this is you, it does not mean you are defective or wrong. Often it means your system has been carrying too much, for too long, without enough steady support.

What people often bring

People come to this work with many different concerns. These might include:

  • feeling stuck in thinking loops or self doubt

  • exhaustion from carrying responsibility without support

  • difficulty talking openly in political, high pressure, or low safety environments

  • transitions that are hard to name or make sense of

  • a need for a confidential thinking space or sounding board outside family, friends, or colleagues

How we work together

This work offers a steady, relational space where you can slow down, speak your thoughts out loud, and notice what is happening inside you.

Sessions are gentle, unhurried, and individualised. There is no pressure to perform, improve, or arrive at quick clarity. I do not work from a single rigid model. I work with what is present, guided by care, ethics, and attention to what actually helps.

Between sessions, there can be space for brief written reflections or gentle check ins if that is supportive.

My approach integrates trauma-informed principles, nervous system awareness, somatic reflection, and adult development insights. Presence, care, and real human connection come first.

If you feel this might be for you, you can reach out for an initial conversation or explore more about working together.

Or if you are looking for how I work with organisations, you’ll find more information here.

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Coaching is a way through the loops and confusion of life. Together, we create space to pause, reflect, and move forward with clarity, courage, and confidence.
Trauma Aware Coaching, Self-Awareness, Transitions, Leadership, HSP Coach (PCC) in New Zealand.  
If you're curious to read about Joanne's credentials and experience, you'll find more details here.

‘After our calls I always felt like I could do and be anything! An unforgettable experience.’

- SP

IN THEIR OWN WORDS

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 CLIENT PRAISE

‘Midway through my initial phone conversation with Jo, it became apparent why she is so highly recommended…’

- NC, Waikato

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Life Coach supporting clients through times of transitions, growth and healing.